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  • Daria Vast

First Date Etiquette for Ladies: Do's and Don'ts

So, you got asked out on a first date, and you want to make it enjoyable and secure a second one? Here's some advice.

The first date should be planned by the lady. If the guy accepts, it's a clear indication of his interest and willingness to put effort into the relationship. Choose the time and place confidently.

According to the authors of the book "The New Rules: The Secrets of Successful Relationships for Modern Women," Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider, if a guy asks you out for the weekend, he should do it no later than Wednesday. That way, he shows he wants to see you specifically, not just because he has no plans. If he suggests next week, accept it.

A great place for a first date is a cafe in a shopping mall. It's usually busy and safe, and you won't have to wait long for your order since you only have 30 minutes for the first date. Why 30 minutes? That's enough to make a first impression and decide if you want to go on a second date. If you're dating regularly, more than 30 minutes can be exhausting. Let the guy know beforehand that you only have time for lunch, for example. Set a timer on your phone to avoid overstaying your welcome. Don't expect anything more than an interesting conversation. Don't judge him by his looks, clothes, or performance. You don't know each other well enough yet.

Here's the most crucial secret: end the date first. Don't wait for him to suggest it. Like Cinderella, leave a bit of mystery and a desire to see you again. He'll wonder what he missed out on and will be motivated to call or text you.

If you follow these rules, you'll have a comfortable and enjoyable first date and possibly secure a second one.

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