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  • Daria Vast

Women's Dating Initiations in the Modern World

When it comes to dating, there's no one-size-fits-all approach. While some women swear by initiating contact and taking the lead, others prefer to sit back and wait for potential matches to reach out. In this blog, we'll explore the advantages and disadvantages of initiating contact in the dating world. From maximizing your chances of finding a compatible partner to avoiding common pitfalls, I'll help you make an informed decision about the best strategy for your dating journey.

If you message the first 20 guys today, will it lead to success? While it may seem like a numbers game, the reality is that not all matches will be a good fit. It's important to weigh the potential benefits and drawbacks of initiating contact in the dating world.

In dating, the key is to find someone you truly connect with, rather than just responding to whoever messages you. The trick is to identify that special someone among the sea of men and go on a date with them! The purpose of all these messaging rules is simply to weed out those who aren't a good match for you. You don't want to go on a hundred dates with people who aren't interested, or you'll quickly burn out.

Ideally, you want to be selective and only go on about 10 dates, each with someone who's a good fit for you, and one of those dates might just be the perfect match. This approach is much better than going on 100 or 500 dates that aren't a good match for you.

Even if you're lucky, following all the dating rules might mean going on 8 dates before meeting the perfect match in a bar. Does that mean you should have been searching in bars all along? No. It just means you got lucky! But relying on luck is like going to a casino to try and pay off your debts - it's not a reliable strategy. Luck is just luck, and it comes to those who are lucky!

If you're not the first one to message, then everyone who messages you is clearly interested. Some may have dropped off because they have better options or are too busy. In my case, I didn't message him FIRST.

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